Its interesting as I look at this list. Of course, almost everyone
on it is now a stranger. A couple might be enemies. None of them
is dead, as far as I know (but I have my suspicions about one of
them). Almost everyone that I have some vague idea about is either
living an average life, or struggling in some manner. I suppose
that's to be expected. In fact, I am living both an
average
life and I'm
struggling.
So I'm certainly not finger-pointing. Or maybe I am. I don't know.
Who cares? Here's the list of everyone I've ever dared to call a
"friend".
+Aaron: Some kid I knew when I was little.
+Brian: My best friend from 1st to 7th grade. He decided I
wasn't cool enough to be friends with during 7th grade. He was
also black.
+Jeff: I was friends with him from 1st to 7th grade. I
decided he wasn't cool enough to be friends with during 7th grade.
He was very white. Actually, he was way too "geeky" and into
computers for me.
+Mike: I knew him in elementary school. Why were we
friends? He was just a nice kid, I guess.
+Scott: I was friends with him for exactly one year, during
4th grade. Later he became the only really mean gay guy I ever
knew. One time we played one on one football in his front yard,
which was covered in snow, and there was dog poop underneath.
+Dan (1): Pretty cool dude. I was friends with him all
through school. I have no idea what he does now.
+Geoff: Some kid I was friends with. He moved. Thats all I
remember.
+Mark: The only kid I was friends with that lived near me.
We looked at porn together. He moved when before I started 4th
grade.
+Kelly: Friends in 5th grade. Then I had a crush on her for
a few months.
+Tom: Friends on and off during school years, until 11th
grade. I think he was schizophrenic. Not sure.
+Matt: Lived a few blocks away. Cool guy. Went on family
vacations with us. Now he has kids.
+Joe: Matt's older brother. Smart guy. Now he's a
lawyer.
+John (1): My cousin. I've known him since I was a little
kid, but he didn't factor much in my life until I was eight or so.
We were tight for several years. I was even his best man. Now he
owns a gun shop, and I'm pretty sure he thinks I'm gay.
+Steve: I met him in 6th grade. He once drew a picture that
I still have somewhere of a guy with his finger in his nose and a
caption, "Pick A Winner". In hindsight, I don't think he made that
up.
+Nicole: God, I had a mad crush on her in 7th grade. I
really ended up humiliating myself though.
+Kim: She was friends with Nicole. I liked her too, but
more as a friend, but also as more. Her dad made me stop calling
her. Later, I thought that she got her dad to make me stop calling
because she didn't like me. Could be?
+Jackie: The hot girl that sat beside me in 8th grade
homeroom.
+Holly: Met in 8th grade. Became great friends in 11th
grade. Stayed that way for a while. Lost touch with her for a few
years. Reconnected, then got in a fight that had to do with me
"liking" her, her neglecting me, and something else. Haven't
spoken to her since. She's getting married in January.
+Ron: He looked like Steven Segal. He was big and used to
defend me in high school.
+Bill: I met him in 8th grade in gym class. We're still
friends.
+Julie: Pen-pal from Athol, Mass. We both liked the
Beatles. Briefly influenced me with her Morman beliefs.
+Doug: He was a wrestler, and he used to toss me around for
practice. Nice guy too.
+Paul: My guitar teacher for a couple years. He taught me
how to play guitar like Stephen Stills, and turned me on to a ton
of music.
+Xavier: Friend during 11th grade only. He was a desperate
kid who really wanted to be popular. Drove me up the wall.
+Amy (1): Had a mad crush on her for a while during 11th
grade. She played violin, and she was disturbed. Had a crush on
her, and that was the end of that.
+Stef: Amy(1)'s friend. My friend during 11th grade. She
was probably bipolar. Hard to get along with.
+Amy (2): She was "my Judy Collins" in 11th grade. Seemed
tormented most of the time, but mostly just liked to drink and get
high. Now she's fat, or so I hear.
+Brad: We had a few adventures. I thought he was pretty
'out there'. Loved U2. I knew him in 11th and 12th grade.
+Fletcher: We were friends from 11th grade until my
sophmore year at college, and then on and off until 1994, during
which we were roommates, and he puked in my spaghetti pot, and
didn't clean his bedsheets even once the entire time.
+Chris: Friends in senior year of high school, and a little
on and off after that. I'm not sure what he does now. Acting, I
think... UPDATE: A handy search on Google shows that he's been
quite busy. Here's a link:
Chris Potocki. He's in an IC Light commercial. My urge to
judge is strong, but what do I know? At least he's an ass in the
commercial.
+Casondra: Met her in 11th grade through mutual friend
Stef. One of my best friends, still in touch even though she lives
in SF. I miss her.
+Lauren: Casondra's best friend during school years. I met
her in 11th grade. I developed a crush on her that lasted for
nearly four years, and pretty much destroyed me because I was
basically retarded.
+Robin: One of my various mistakes with girls She was cute
and liked me in 12th grade. I didn't do anything because I liked
Lauren.
+Lynette: Very sensitive girl, and nice. Same situation as
with Robin though.
+Katie: Pretty similar to the previous two. I was a total
idiot. I could've had a real 12th grade experience if I had
managed to get my head out of my ass.
+Alex(1): He was in my band. I knew him from 12 grade
through junior year of high school. He was a religious nut, and I
thought he was a total hypocrit. One of the most infuriating
people I've ever known.
+Scott(2): One of the nicest guys I ever met. I knew him
from 12th grade through 1994. He became very religious and that
made it hard to maintain our friendship. He wasn't a hypocrit
though. I miss him.
+Pete: One of the first people I met at Tyler. Fairly
normal guy with a good sense of humor. Have no idea what he does
now.
+Brian(2): Pete's roommate. Strange guy, and very funny.
Hard to get to know. I have no idea what he does now. He was a
good artist though.
+John (2): Another strange fellow I met early on at Tyler.
We were briefly in a band together and it was a disaster.
+Karen: I thought she was my soulmate for awhile. We fought
a lot, and I liked her a lot. Too much trouble.
+Josh: Met in freshman year at Tyler. Good friends for a
long time after that. He lives in NYC now, and he's dating
Beyonce. More info at
Joshua
Gabriel
+Sean: Josh's freshman roommate. A big football player
dude, but he was nice. Kind of slow, but we got along okay. I knew
him until I left Tyler.
+Mel: My first actual girlfriend; in other words, she'd
also agree that she was my "girlfriend". After we dated for a few
months, I wanted to have nothing to do with her. That was kind of
shitty. I can't explain it.
+Pam: I'm not even sure we were actually friends. I once
suggested to Josh that she had a penis.
+Rick: He was in my band for a while. He had a lot of sex
with girls in college. He was pretty okay though. Lives in SF, I
think.
+Judy: Rick's girlfriend for many years. Nice girl. Have no
idea what she does now.
+Candace (1): A young girl I had a crush on for a couple
years. She was waitress where I worked. I'm not sure we were
really friends, actually.
+Gretchen: Very strange and attractive girl I knew in my
sophomore year of college. She once said "I have to take go take a
shit". Had sex with Pete (mentioned above). Her ex-boyfriend
shaved her cat to get revenge.
+Candace (2): Very hot girl I was friends with in sophomore
year of college. Described herself as a lush. We saw Paul Simon at
the Spectrum.
+Io: We dated at the end of sophomore year of college.
Confusion ensued. Lost touch with her in 1995.
+Alex (2): Worked as dishwasher/prep cook at the
restaurant. Later married my sister.
+Christine: Nice girl I met in Ohio. Only knew her for a
year.
+Amanda (1): Artsy girl I was friends with in Ohio for a
semester. I liked her, she didn't like me. Yeah.
+Amanda (2): Mentally ill girl I dated for nine months. She
had borderline personality.
+Emma: Met her in 1993. Now she lives in Louisiana. We were
roommates for a spell back in 1994. We're still in touch, but not
as much as we used to be. Mostly though email these days.
+Corie: She's on my list, but I'll bet she doesn't even
remember me. We were friends for a few months in 1994. She liked
Fletcher, and apparently didn't mind his hygiene issues.
+Amy (3): Josh's girlfriend from 1994-96. We were briefly
friends.
+Dan (2): He was in another band of mine. Played the
guitar. His blog is at:
Drunken Ravings Of A
Lonely Man.
+Kate: She tried out for our band, and we were friends for
awhile. She wouldn't date me though. I completely forgot about her
until Dan read this list and reminded me.
+Maria: Kate's roommate. We went out a whole bunch of times
but I screwed it up with her by getting involved with Ann (see
below). I think I so thoroughly humiliated myself that Maria lost
all respect for me.
+Ann: Girl from Chicago that I "dated" long distance. It
was a total fiasco, and she was completely insane.
+Tina: Girl I worked with. She was sort of like a 'big
sister' to me until I hit on her.
+Janet: My boss where I worked in 1995-97. We were sort of
friends after I quit and until I moved in August 1999.
+Laurie: We met at work. She was pretty cool. Married
though. I lost touch with after I moved in August 1999.
+Evan: Evan and I tried to start a band. It didn't work
because I was still too much into rap. He sells his cd's here:
Stuart
Maybe.
+Kristina: I was friends with her in 1998. She talked about
herself constantly and didn't even know what I did for a living.
+Dan (3): I met him where I wa working in 1998-99. We
stayed in touch via email after I moved, but I think he eventually
got pissed off with my various criticisms and negativity.
+Al (ACB): I met Al in 1999 through the Crosby, Stills
& Nash list group. We trade music back and forth. I've only
met him once, but we email regularly.
+Cheryl: I met her at my job after I moved. She was one of
the few people that talked to me. She recently helped me get my
new job.
+Monica: One of the hottest chicks I've ever known! I met
her in 2000. She was a good eight years younger than me and also a
lesbian. In the spring of that year, her girlfriend started to
beat the shit out of her, so she moved to her home in Boston. I
didn't try to stay in touch.
+Heather: A girl I dated for a couple months in both 2000
and 2001. She was nice, but very "high maintenance". One of the
few people I ever yelled at (the others being Ann, Karen, and my
sister).
+Diana: Met her at Stadtlanders/CVS. She was funny. Haven't
heard from her in awhile.
+Sherri: Met her at Stadtlanders/CVS. She has been like a
big sister. Haven't seen her in a while. Sometimes I wonder why I
haven't heard from people in a long time, and then I remember that
I have this online blog/journal thingy.
+Leah: One of the coolest people ever. She has twins.
+Jackie (2): I met her in 2001. She was a recruiter and we
sort of became friends.
+Natalia: She sat beside me at MSA, and explained that
"Ukraine" wasn't "the Ukraine". All those Olympics announcers had
it wrong.
+Scott (3): The lead DBA at MSA. We had lunch at Wendy's
almost everyday in 2002.
+Bryan: Another DBA at MSA. I seriously envy a couple
aspects of his life.
+Sarah: A girl I dated in 2002 for a few months. She was a
waitress and always smelled like a greasy kitchen. Her father was
a minister. What was I thinking?!
+Amy (4): I should've given up on Amy's by now. At any
rate, we were friends in 2002 and 2003, but now we're not. Its
just as well.
+Vanaja: Everyone calls her Vana. At least the white people
do. She was the first person to talk to me at Highmark.
+Lauren (2): We actually knew each other in high school but
became reaquainted in 2002. We weren't friends in high school.
Then we dated in 2003, and it turned to shit. There was a reason
we weren't friends in high school after all.
+Tracey: I met her at Highmark. She only worked there a
couple months. I don't know what she's doing now, but it worries
me.
+Sirisha: Really cool girl I met at Highmark. Funny as hell
too.
+Lori: She took Tracey's job. We have lunch almost
everyday. Hey, you never comments!
+Rebecca: We met in June 2003. And now she's my best friend
and everything else. She's currently pregnant, and I'm the
"father".